Post by Admin on Oct 29, 2020 19:17:06 GMT
Dating and Romance after 40 +
Dating and Romance after 40 + years of age, what are people looking for in a mate compared to what they were looking for in a mate 20 years prior?
When starting or raising a family is no longer apart of the selection process, than what is it that people focus on in another?
And do what people seek in a mate vary by gender?, do older females look for one thing and older males look for another?
I mean sure there's are a lot of factors including money, and class to say the least.
A older wealthy single man or male is 'golden', but a older working class male living check to check, not so much in as far as attracting desirable women.
One thing for sure, most people don't like being controlled, money or no money.
Many would rather be near broke yet free, than to live with a wealthy person and be expected to be their pet all of the time.
I know now that I'm older I tend to look at women my same age differently, they look 'older' than I do, I think there's a phycological term for that.
Cause in your mind, you're always 19, so when single, and see a woman or man your own age, they look to you like your teacher from high school or older relative....dating someone who looks old makes you feel old, and who wants to feel old, while single?
And then there's the whole did you have kids and raise a family thing.
There's no worse thing than a male/female who never was able to create biological family of their own to have to date someone who that's all they talk about, cause then what it does is make the one without their own kids, want to date another who is 'fertile'.
That's why I think it best for older couples who have had kids already to date, cause they can both brag about their kids together at the dinner table.
But I think it's more rare to find a lady over 40 who's never birthed kids, than it is to find older males who never had kids of their own.
Again, money and class really changes the dynamics, for millionaires, it really doesn't matter, cause when that rich can buy 'Love', can basically buy a family, not like retail, but just the fact it's easier for people to like you, put up with your flaws, if always showering them with money, wealth, fame and gifts, but when poor, income poor, all you have is your personality basically, and if don't have that, you don't have much to offer the opposite sex.
Although where I stay, I do see a lot of desolate couples on the streets, hotel couples, that seem perfectly happy together, but that's 'street level' romance or bonding which is a whole different catigory in itself.
Anyways, I'll post here from time to time with thoughts on this matter.
Dating and Romance after 40 + years of age, what are people looking for in a mate compared to what they were looking for in a mate 20 years prior?
When starting or raising a family is no longer apart of the selection process, than what is it that people focus on in another?
And do what people seek in a mate vary by gender?, do older females look for one thing and older males look for another?
I mean sure there's are a lot of factors including money, and class to say the least.
A older wealthy single man or male is 'golden', but a older working class male living check to check, not so much in as far as attracting desirable women.
One thing for sure, most people don't like being controlled, money or no money.
Many would rather be near broke yet free, than to live with a wealthy person and be expected to be their pet all of the time.
I know now that I'm older I tend to look at women my same age differently, they look 'older' than I do, I think there's a phycological term for that.
Cause in your mind, you're always 19, so when single, and see a woman or man your own age, they look to you like your teacher from high school or older relative....dating someone who looks old makes you feel old, and who wants to feel old, while single?
And then there's the whole did you have kids and raise a family thing.
There's no worse thing than a male/female who never was able to create biological family of their own to have to date someone who that's all they talk about, cause then what it does is make the one without their own kids, want to date another who is 'fertile'.
That's why I think it best for older couples who have had kids already to date, cause they can both brag about their kids together at the dinner table.
But I think it's more rare to find a lady over 40 who's never birthed kids, than it is to find older males who never had kids of their own.
Again, money and class really changes the dynamics, for millionaires, it really doesn't matter, cause when that rich can buy 'Love', can basically buy a family, not like retail, but just the fact it's easier for people to like you, put up with your flaws, if always showering them with money, wealth, fame and gifts, but when poor, income poor, all you have is your personality basically, and if don't have that, you don't have much to offer the opposite sex.
Although where I stay, I do see a lot of desolate couples on the streets, hotel couples, that seem perfectly happy together, but that's 'street level' romance or bonding which is a whole different catigory in itself.
Anyways, I'll post here from time to time with thoughts on this matter.
