I know age related depression is kind of a broad term, cause that, to some, could apply to any age, I mean there's plenty of 17 year old's who probably think they're depressed do to their youth, maybe getting rejected by a college or rejected by a girlfriend.
And I'm sure there's even 5 year old's, who think they're depressed cause sent to bed without dinner do to acting up.
But that's not what I'm talking about, I'm specifically referring to 'older age' type of depression, for people getting up there.
Being depressed at 40 or 50 or 70, do to age related issues, is different than being depressed at 17, cause wasn't invited to the high school prom.
I mean depression is depression I suppose (why do I always complicate things in my own mind).
But I'm referring to older age related depression, maybe like lower energy, less enthusiasm towards everything, or a sense of doom and gloom that looms (that rhymed)
One example of this may be the fact that the older you get the less people you're able to relate to, socially, culturally and more.
Also, the older you get, those who inspired you when younger, they begin to fade, drop off, wither and die.
There's no more 'Uncle Ben' or 'Uncle Charlie', to set you aside and give you that talk.
Maybe no more 'Dad' to give you that tough love, as you age there's 'no more' of a lot of things, as well as seems weekly hearing how this childhood idle, that childhood idle celebrity has died, that song writer has passed, that actor you thought was invincible, gone, in the grave.
One of those actors for me was 'Burt Reynold's
I mean this guy was one of my favorite celebrity actors I can remember while growing up, I'm talking when I was under the age of 10, I always say him as this 'white' outlaw rebel always fighting against Southern injustice in movies like 'Grease lightening' (I think that was the title where he's running moonshine) Burt Reynolds was like the outlaw to the outlaw south, and I remember being inspired by him as a kid, his characters in movies came off so confident, you could break his body but not his spirit, but finally his body broke...when he passed away a few years ago.
That's just one example though, a more recent is Eddie Van Halen, I mean my gosh, another one who was suppose to live forever do to their talent.
The older you get, the more you start looking back, is one reason why I created this blog forum, is mainly to look back, and not sure if that's good or bad, cause when we start looking back more than forward, does that mean in our minds we've gone as forward as humanly possible or as forwards as we believe our own personal circumstance will allow?
Who knows, nothings pure black or white when it comes to the human mind.
People blessed with large families and extended families don't even have time to think about all of this, they're to busy living, and giving, and being loved, to think about what those who have none of that dwell on.
If you have a spouse, kids, grandkids, cousins, Uncles, Aunts, grandparents, and more, and good friends, who keep your life charged with love and acceptance, than everything I just wrote above is like googly mook.
Well googly mook, no googly mook, what I write and share is still the reality for millions.
But at least when the wealthy begin to fade, they can hide from society, they can just hide period, their wealth allows them to fade out in relative comfort, with their dignity intact, but when income poor or income average, no such luxury.
Nope, when income average or social security check dependent, no such luxury at all, when you or your health begins to crumble, there's no pillow of wealth to catch you, is one reason why the ranks of the homeless keeps increasing so much...I mean society may be done with 'you', when broke, and unable to earn a income anymore, but doesn't mean your body just drops dead.
You may live another 10 years, even after retired, spent all your money and broke...then what?
Old folks home? streets?, your family, if have any?
Or a gun, that you keep next to your bed, so that in the event that time comes, you take matters in your own hand and are just done with it?
I don't know, none of us will until that moment arises.
And doesn't hurt to keep thinking you're going to win the lottery at last minute and thus live your golden years in splendor.
Believe it or not, I still get 'carded' from time to time when I buy alcohol (something I'm no longer doing), but when did a few weeks ago, youngster wanted to card me, boy did I ridicule them...but that aside, sure I may look very young to some on the outside, but on the inside I'm aging right along with everyone else.
Same issues, everything, creeping up for sure.
I think what depresses people as we age, is not so much our age, but thinking about what we didn't or couldn't accomplish, all the 'what if's' begin circulating through the mind.
That's what gets you, not so much your age, but the 'what if's'.
Like that one famous movie line 'I could of been a contender'...if only __________(fill in the blank), cause the 'if only', is a bit different for everyone.
It's the idea of only getting 20% out of your potential, when feel should of gotten 90-100% if only __________.
The if only's vary for all.
If only I had been born a different color or ethnicity
If only my spouse had stuck with me
If only I were born on the other side of those tracks.
If only I were born in that country, instead of mine
If only people had understood me
If only my family hadn't moved around so much when younger
If only I didn't get sick and ill
If only I hadn't been cut from that team
If only I didn't use drugs
If only I didn't marry that person
If only I didn't join that church
If only I had been born a different gender
If only people had found me to be sexier in my prime
If only I hadn't of moved to this area
If only my luck weren't so bad
If only God had really loved me like he did others
If only I had gotten better advice when younger
If only I had stayed in school and or College
If only I had not given up on that job or career path
If only I had been more forgiving towards others
If only I weren't so nice, and more cut throat, I'd be rich
One and on and on, some are able to maximize their talent in this world, and thus age gracefully and happy, others, for whatever reason couldn't catch a break when younger, and still can't when older, and so wrestle with the idea of getting older when inside feel still so much to do, to accomplish, but can't.
Much more to follow, this will be a long section as time allows.
Hurting self as in same ole destructive habits, that although feel comfortable, really aren't good for the body, as in drinking, or maybe smoking or worse, or even addiction to pain medications, or maybe even staying in a rotten relationship, or even over eating, whatever it is, it's destructive to self, and it's like 'we' know this, but continue any how as if there will be a different outcome one day.
But then one day, the body will say 'Sorry, I can't recover from your bad habit anymore', and there'll be no more 'rebound', just a slope downward, like with Rush and his lung cancer.
I know how smoked cigars for years, and wonder if that had anything to do with it?
But we all have micro or major bad habits that are slowly effecting our mental and physical health, could even be a bad diet high in fat and grease and spices and sauces.
Ultimately, if you have enough 'love' for self, whatever the bad habit, you will stop, even if it's gambling or driving to fast and reckless and so forth, if you 'love' self, you'll stop.
Even if no one else loves you, if you love yourself, which = 'life', than you will stop.